THE SUGAR DADDY SYNDROME

Bata Hewali  Weekend Courier 30 July 2011

As soon as I decide to stop posting reports, there are quality reports in the media that have to be summarized and posted. This is another below:

Sugar Daddies are not grown and produced in the sweet Ramu Valley like Ramu sugar or sold in Seeto Kui variety stores like King Sugar.

They are grown right in your bedroom, share the same bed with you, same cup of tea, wear the same slippers. They are the ones you warned your daughters about.

Sugar daddies refer to elderly men, often married, who lure girls often as young as 14-15 years old with money or expensive gifts in exchange for sexual favours. It is like a disease and the girls become addicted to this lifestyle and see it as the only means of survival.

At night clubs, which is ground zero for sugar daddies, you see these girls all giggly and groggy in short skimpy skirts or tight hip-hugging jeans.

And you wonder how they got into the nightclub in the first place. Most nightclubs today have no code of entry and underage girls have no problems getting through the door. No ID is required when she flashes a set of pearly whites.

It is not long before a tray of drinks arrives, compliments of bossman over in the corner. By the end of the night, she is riding shot gun in his flashy tinted vehicle. A hotel room is booked and the following weekend, she has the latest touch mobile phone so that he can call her again.

Sugar daddies like to shower their young girls with gifts and often do not hesitate to dish out money for their every whim. Second hand shops and haus kais are frequented and she emerges wearing tiny shorts and t-shirt that could fit a five year old.

School does not appeal any more and her dreams of becoming a doctor or lawyer is all but forgotten. Young girls are looking for a better life and they engage in a relationship with a sugar daddy as her ticket out of the hard life.

And the sugar daddy knows this and like the slyness of a fox takes advantage of her, weaving his wicked magic. When seen together, the couple could be mistaken for father and daughter or even grandfather.

The frequent phone calls from his wife get a devious…am with my boss and am working late. Precious time with the kids is replaced with time with the young Barbie.

The once peaceful family life is disturbed with arguments at home, kids get ignored with meager lunch money for the kids, bills not paid on time and he gets more abusive when he tries to protect his little missus which by now is neighborhood gossip.

His pretty wife suddenly becomes his punching bag with loose teeth, broken bones and broken lips. She lives in fear and takes her revenge in the street, in search of the home wrecker Barbie to put a knife through her.

The sugar daddy habit brings HIV/AIDS into families or forces a neglected wife into prostitution to earn money for her and her neglected children. Unwanted pregnancies add to forced marriage, polygamy and harsh and unethical methods of abortion. Court battles ensue into adultery and divorce.

But for the very weak woman, she suffers while her husband fools around because she is not the bread winner and can not support the children. She broods in silence, cries all the time and masks her scarred heart with a happy face. What happens? Nothing.

The wicked Sugar Daddy just drives home to her after dropping off the young girl walks in and says “ Hi honey, I missed you”.

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