Choosing a husband
A young woman needs to take care in choosing a husband. She has to protect her reputation in the community.
This will influence the boys who will be attracted to her and what they will want from her. To find a good young man she will have to be accepted by his family. They may want her to be acceptable to their pastor as well.
She should take care with personal conduct in relation to smoking, boozing, going out at night and the number of boy friends she has had. A bad reputation goes around the community quickly.
She must not have sex with boys especially those she would not want for a husband. Many foolish girls are trapped into violent and loveless relationships with unemployed bums who have no money for the family.
If she becomes pregnant, she must not tell this boy or demand money from him. He will regard her as his wife and come around for sex to bash and rape her. She has no future with him.
A girl has to keep her standards high by personal conduct, study at school and the jobs she can take.
A girl risks becoming a loser by leaving school in grade 10, being pregnant and marrying a boy who is unemployed and uneducated.
She must marry a boy accepted by her loving family. This means she brings him home to meet the family before making any other plans.
If the family does not like him, she would be foolish to stay with him. Her brothers, father and uncles will not protect her from domestic violence if she ignores their advice.
She needs to find a boy who will love and respect her, work in a job, bring home pay, not be a violent drunk, respects his own parents and will remain faithful.
They have to be friends, able to live together, enjoy each other's company, laugh and relax together, make family decisions, share money, have friends together, attend church and be supported by family.
They need to raise a loving family of children who become educated with jobs, loyal to the family and ready to care for their parents as they grow old.
Girls will need to be aware of the family problems that will arise in this country if she is involved in a lesbian relationship. There would be danger of violence for both of them if she took her lover back to the village.
Most foreign lesbians will play tricks to hide the relationship. They will tell the family that the girl lives with her as a research assistant.