CONTROLLED BY A PNG WOMAN
It is interesting to find that the same pattern of abuse occurs in gay and lesbian domestic violence. The report below points out that gay and lesbian violence is now only being brought out into the open as it has always been seen as men being abusive and violent to women.
GAY AND LESBIAN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS SILENT
The second time was worse. "He was angry at something—I can't remember what—and I was laughing," said Chris. José again became incensed, strode into the kitchen and grabbed a butcher knife. "He pulled me by my hair, had me on my knees and had the butcher knife at my neck."
I put my hand on his, and we put the knife back in place together," said Chris, demonstrating by holding his two hands together.
"He never hit me or threw things directly at me, but he would frighten me enough to make me back down."
At that point, because of the apartment lease, he said, "it was too late to just up and go."
"Same-sex relationships are often demonized or marginalized," she said, "So some people's attitudes are 'it serves you right.'"
This can further contribute to stress in a gay relationship, said Seaman, when one or both of the people are "self-loathing" gays.
After the last time the two broke up, LaTesha said, "She just wouldn't let it go. She tried to get back with me. I was still in love with her [Monique], but I didn't want to be with her anymore."
LaTesha had begun volunteering as a peer educator there after she and Monique broke up for the last time. "I could have gotten banned from Safe Space," LaTesha said of the fight.
According to Network/La Red in Boston, only two of the 30 domestic violence shelters in Massachusetts are specifically geared toward LGBTQ people: Network/La Red, and the Gay Men's Domestic Violence Program. Of mainstream programs, only eight accept LGBT people. Many shelters, even if they say they're LGBT-friendly, reportedly fail when it comes to providing for LGBT safety needs.