LOVING DISCIPLINE HELPS CHILD GROWTH

In the United Nations, there is a detailed focus on the rights of children.

But the rights are so detailed that the parents even in loving families

could be accused of abuse.

There are people in the world involved in child welfare who have a deep

desire to have children put into care in foster homes or orphanages. It is

all about access to children.

And you have only one meal a day? Abuse. You are required to wash
clothes. Abuse.  You are 9 years old and do not go to school. Abuse.

Does he let you play with friends in the afternoon? No.  Do you drink

clean water? No. An obvious case of abuse.

The fact is that this family lives in poverty. The mother is sick. The father

is unemployed. They have no land to grow crops.

Children as small babies are completely under the control of parents

who come running whenever the child cries.

On this blog is a report on the way that a child can be lovingly brought

to understand they are not the boss in the house and have to comply

with wishes of parents. They have to be nurtured/disciplined in loving

ways.

Punishment is part of world culture. Offenders can go to gaol. Capital

punishment still exists. Moslem countries use the cane. Deprivation of

privilege and liberty are keys to child discipline.

If we misbehave in the work place, we can lose our jobs. We can be
expelled from school. We have to understand consequences. Our
children have to learn too.

As HIV/AIDS consultants in Papua New Guinea, we can lose our jobs
by incompetence, arrogance and corruption. There are consequences
for all of us that we learn starting from childhood.

Children are to be under authority of loving parents. But the United

Nations charter can put the authority with the child who can become

the head of the house with right to do what they want.

Children can handle loving discipline from parents. There are family

advisors who think that discipline causes deep emotional scars. Not

true. It is perfectly acceptable for a child to suffer remorse for wrong

doing.

It is acceptable and a key responsibility for a parent to lovingly bring

the child to a state of remorse with a promise of more acceptable

behaviour in the future.

A parent has a responsibility to do this as long as there is affirmation

for appropriate behaviour. There is a responsibility for parents to

develop both submissiveness and initiative in a child.

The parents should not be the servants who have to slave and work

to do for the child whatever is demanded. Parents and children have

rights and responsibilities.

A parent told the story that he threatened his child with punishment,

only to be told he would be in breach of the United Nations Charter

of Children’s Rights.

There are people who want to weaken family by destroying authority

of parents who have no rights and only responsibilities. Children have

only rights and no responsibilities.

In Papua New Guinea, the foreign advisors talk to women, boys and

girls about rights only. Churches focus on rights and responsibilities.

The future of the national HIV/AIDS response lies with the churches.

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Recently, my 12 year old daughter wanted money. I gave money to her

but she said her elder sister received more. So she wanted more.

When I did not give it to her, she cried and said she hated me. Then she

went outside and threw stones on the walls of the house.

I told her she definitely was not getting more money and could not stay

overnight with her girl friend.

It took about an hour for her to come to say sorry. I told her she would
not get more money but could stay with her friend overnight. She said
she was sorry. I told her I loved her.

What do you think UN / AusAID gay / lesbian advisors? Is that abuse?
I did suspend her right of association as set down in the UN Charter of
Children's Rights. And I did deny her funding by discrimination with her
sister. Will you be seeking to take her into care?