GIRLS CHOOSING TO BE LOSERS

A key theme in the Grades 9 and 10 Personal Development courses

In Papua New Guinea today, there are many young girls with babies. They have gone straight from dolls to babies. Any dreams and priorities they may have had have been changed forever.

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Some girls have no dreams as they have not been to school past grade 2. That is as far as they could go in the village elementary school.

Their parents were afraid to send them on to the next grade and spend their time living with an uncle in a distant village. Many young girls were kept at home while their brothers went on to school.

So they have no education, no job and are unemployable. In the villages, their only job will be to work in the gardens. Yet many young girls who have been to school, still throw away their opportunities by allowing some boy or man to make them pregnant.

Problems have just started. The man may be married already and does not support the girl and her baby. Young boys may not have education, job prospects and the capacity or desire to have the responsibilities of looking after a wife and child.

The boy still wants to drink with the boys and come back to the girl for sex. She has been the only female from whom he has successfully demanded sex. Other girls see him as a loser. He will not let her go easily. He smokes marijuana and drinks homebrew and is on his way to becoming a drug body.

She does not love him. Nor does he love her. They have just come together for sex that he has pressured her into.

He is not a husband to the girl but becoming a man who comes and goes, boozes, demands sex and bashes her. He wants any money that she has earned from selling vegetables in the market. Her family stands by and lets it all happen. What can they do? She has given birth to his child.

Let us wind the clock back to the start:

She could have not allowed the boy to make her pregnant.

If possible, she should have put her priority on education and a job.

She should have had sex only with a boy who could be a good husband.

She should have waited until she was married.

If pregnant, she should have taken care in telling him he was the father.

She should not have allowed him to treat her as his wife.

She should have taken care in accepting his money for the baby.

He now regards her as his wife and the baby his child.

She is now locked into a relationship.

She should have waited acceptance of any boy by her family.

If able to complete education, that should still be her priority.

She should work in a paid job if possible.

Only then should she marry a boy acceptable to her and family.

She should not choose a husband who will take her far from her family.

She should know that village abortion is dangerous.

Regardless of what Australian gay and lesbian advisors say, it all comes back to family.

Dear overseas reader: Wantoks means people of the same language which comes down to nuclear and extended families.

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